Word of the YEAR

Saturday, January 5, 2019

Every New Year I focus on a word for the year. A word that is going to drive me, something that I put into everything that I do for the year. This past year it was GROWTH. While I worked on growing my family, I also worked on personal and spiritual growth. But to be honest it kind of fell by the wayside. I didn't grow as much as I would have liked, but then again this is me being the biggest critic of myself that there is, but I digress.


This year, I decided to choose something else. Something that I need to work on that reflects the most growth that I need in life. If you know me then you know I'm a bonafide procrastinator and I mean BONAFIDE. I wait till the 11th hour to start things and then have the biggest anxiety attack because I realize that I didn't start on time and that I am going to not finish it and then race for it to be done all the while not getting any sleep, or I just start things and don't finish. From my health to, to writing, to other projects I've started and stopped because I lost interest or drive, or because if I really think about it, I'm lazy,  but this year I promise myself to continue and to not stop. I promise to keep my commitments and to see them through. I took the time out the other day to journal about what I want to be committed to.

I need to make sure that I am really aware of what I'm doing and why I need to work on them. This was so enlightening for me and it also gave me a focus. I really want to get to where I am not stopping and starting over but I am consistent and I am focused. I have a good feeling about this year. I know it. I can feel it in my bones. You know that feeling you get when you KNOW things are going to work in your favor. I'm telling you I CAN FEEL IT.




My final work of commitment was to send my future self a letter. A letter documenting all the things that I have done that will not be opened until January of next year. GIRL!! I sat down and wrote myself the most realest letter. I kept it all the way real with myself and I know I have to get down to business when it comes to getting these goals crushed. I started during my lunch period and finished at the end of the day. It took some time to get my real self out there. I had to remind myself that I'm doing this for me and if I really want to be a better version of myself then I need to keep it as my student would say A HUNNIT


I tell you, I am so ready to crush this year its not even funny. I am so happy I started back blogging again, it has been one of my goals since forever, and I've put it off for forever but my friend Tramayne over at Ready Set Charlotte has made me jump into it head first. Head over to her blog to read about her adventures in a new city with her loves. Its such a good read.





Cheers to the weekend!



















2019!!!

Wednesday, January 2, 2019



Happy New Year!!!

Wow, it's already 2019. I cannot believe that 2018 is already over.  I swear the years are flying by. When I was younger the year didn't seem to go by so quickly, but now that I'm older the days and weeks and months just seem to lump together. I cannot believe that the time has gone by already, back to another January.

Last year I wrote about coming back and taking charge of my blog. I had pondered on leaving it or revamping it and taking the name and buying it and all of that jazz. After careful thought and talking to others I bought the name and it’s all mine. I mean, it’s only right, right? There is so much history on this here blog, there have been great changes since I've last left off but I want to continue what I've started and grow my baby. Why start anew when I've got something good here.

So here I am. Starting off 2019 with a bang. I'm not going to make any promises or any long drawn out posts about posting and not posting and what not, I'm just going to let my actions speak for themselves and do what I said I was going to do.

 Anywho,

 WELCOME TO THE NEW YEAR







Allow me to Re-Introduce Myself....

Friday, September 7, 2018


I don't know how many times its been, maybe 4 or 5, honestly I have lost count but I think this time I'm for real, for real (that's how you know I'm not joking) when I say that I am going to take this blogging thing more serious. I mean I've even paid to have my domain handle and changed the name so why wouldn't I be more consistent with posting. My goal is to make this what it was originally intended on being. It was supposed to be my space to get my thoughts out. When I started this blog over 10 years ago it was when I was in a place in my life where I needed a different form of therapy. I needed something to help me air out my feelings and thoughts. Then I changed careers, met a guy, got married,  had a baby and this place, this space, this open area where I could do and say what I wanted just got left behind. I do miss the blogging atmosphere. I do miss those who used to blog like I did. It really was a space for us to just read others thoughts and comment every so often. So here I am, trying again to do what I had sought out to in 2007. But, lets not dwell on the past, let's make some new memories, so with that:

Let me introduce myself to you. My name is Nelly, I am a 30 something woman from Brooklyn, NY, by way of Haiti. I am married and I have a daughter who just recently turned a year old. I am an educator, I teach special education English, at the High School Level. I love to laugh, I love to watch sports (mainly football, but I will watch a basketball game every once in a while) and I love to read (I have a book blog too, it's also been severely neglected, its not only this one. Find me at ChapterShakedown.com)  I enjoy going out with friends when I can and I am the worlds worst PROCRASTINATOR.


What I do realize is that blogging continues to grow. It exploded into this space where people not only talk about their lives (which is what I believed was the premise of a blog when I first started this one in 2007) they post pictures of their travels, their clothing, just about anything and everything is done via blogging and I am so here for it. I love getting glimpses into peoples lives (I'm a little nosey) I do follow so many other blogs and continue to find new ones, which is why I felt that I should come back and revisit my own. I had thought of getting rid of this one as a whole and starting all over again, but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. This was my baby. I had poured a lot of myself into this and I just couldn't throw it down the drain. So here I am, starting over, yet again, but in the same space.

Keep reading for more posts from me

Facebook.. NO MORE

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

I've been debating it for sometime but I finally decided to do it. I was wondering if I could do it or if I would do it and tonight I took the jump and deactivated my Facebook account.

It was a long time coming but I think the time is right for me to just take some time away from this social media website. Not only does it consume many hours of my life and is involved in many facets of my life, but it has been the source of a lot of my anger lately.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a very happy person. I am what my friends call a person who always sees the good in others and the one who wants to be the keeper of the peace, but lately with Facebook I have found that, that peace was not within my own reach. The longer I stayed on Facebook, and read people's posts and read the comments about people's posts the angrier I become.

I know that this world isn't a happy place, and humans aren't all nice people who look out for one another despite race, or nationality or ethnic background or sexual orientation. I know this, but I was hoping that people ( mainly my friends or people I associate with) would have a heart and understand that we are a society that is changing and evolving and we need to be more tolerant of other people.

I QUIT!!!

Monday, February 1, 2016

I Quit.. It just occurred to me. I don't know how it happened or when it happened but I have come to the realization that I am a quitter. I give up when it gets hard, or when I am comfortable or make believe that I am comfortable. I just stop doing what I know I should do, so yeah I am a quitter!!!  UGH!!!

I know what you're probably thinking. You're thinking that I am quitting this blog because it is too much for me and I can't maintain what I started and let me tell you, you know what YOU'RE...  you're wrong.  Ha ha ha.. I couldn't help myself.

That's not what I am talking about. I am talking about the fact that I am a quitter. Yep! That's what I am, a QUITTER!! I give up on almost everything that I start. I don't know why that is, but I find that often when I begin something I don't usually follow it through to the end. Well  unless it's school or my job but everything else I quit.

Only 26 days late,

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

I was really considering terminating this blog. I mean I don't come on here and when I do its to give lame excuses as to why I haven't blogged in a long time. I was really considering just letting it go, but then I thought or rather I remembered why I created this blog and what purpose it served for me. I remember when I used to work for the library and my good friend Kelly ( who has since stopped blogging) got me into blogging. At first I thought it would be just a good space for me to write down my thoughts and to just vent and possibly make some online friends. I didn't think that I would take to it and really invest in it like I did.. that was almost 10 years ago. I have come and gone off of this blog because I let it go. I just didn't know what to write about anymore. I felt that my life had gotten into a routine and there was nothing that interesting to write about so what was the point. I just couldn't bring myself to delete this site because I thought that I would come back and pick up where I left off.. YEAH RIGHT!! It has been almost 10 years and going back and looking at the posts there are years on here where I have only wrote one post, an that post was to say that I was going to try and write more posts.. BULL****!

Where are all my friends?

Thursday, January 29, 2015

I have come back to blog many many times since the first time I started this blog. I have taken breaks and hiatus' but I have always come back. Recently I noticed in my blog roll that the people that I used to follow and comment on their blog haven't updated their blogs in months if not years. It begs me to ask, what happened to all my blogging people?

When blogging first started, I believe this had to be early in the 2000's everyone was doing it. I was afraid of putting myself out there at first, and thought I would follow a bunch of people and read what they wrote and commented, having my own was a scarey thing. I've said this many times but I started blogging in 2007. A friend, who was also a blogger, convinced me that writing out my thoughts would do me justice. I figured, eh why not. I took the leap of faith and did it, and boy oh boy I became hooked. The only issue was finding things to blog about. I was never concerned with gaining a following, though I later realized that I secretly wished that I had, I just wanted to free my mind of things. I first started blogging about relationships and boys that co-workers and other things that I found interesting. I would also go and read many others blogs.
I enjoyed doing that because it gave me a chance to get to know others through another avenue and then it also allowed me to see that I wasn't the only one who enjoyed sharing thoughts with the world.

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